Companionship At Its Finest

Here's a question for you, do you have any sort of fictional couple that you idolize or wish your love story would be similar to? Mine is definitely Jim Halpert and Pam Beesly. They exemplify this ideal love story of two best friends who fall in love. One quote that summarizes their relationship is, "When you're a kid, you assume your parents are soul mates. My kids are gonna be right about that." When Pam says this, she is beaming with joy and as I watched this show, I truly aspired to live this love story. Unfortunately, that's just all fiction. Although their marriage did show that it's not perfect, the love story they share is pretty rare. Nonetheless, both chose great companions. So let's dive into this hefty topic of companionship.

When we choose partners, whether for school projects, friendships, or life, there are a set of filters we have. When it comes to school projects, we usually want partners who are as smart as we are, who will work hard, and most of all, help us get a good mark. In friendships, we want certain people as well. My point is, we all have a set of filters or requirements that need to be fulfilled when we choose. When it comes to a partner for life or a companion, things get more complicated. Multiple things factor in. Society, family, friends and other influences play a huge role in who we choose. There is one other factor that influences your choice. It can be said to be almost hidden, subconscious even - our state of being, at the time of choice. While no one realizes, it places a large impact on our choice. Let me elaborate further.

As you proceed through life, your state of being (your vibrations you give off, the mental state you are in, your personality at the time, etc.) evolves. To be really honest, it evolves every day. As you experience more, gain more knowledge, we evolve. You learn from your past mistakes and move on. At the time of making the choice of who you would like to be with, you attract an individual who has traits that you would like to manifest yourself. This may be traits such as confidence, resilience, kind heart, courageous, etc. Your mind creates a list of traits we possess and a list of traits that you would like to ideally manifest. Then, you attract the individual who has some of the most important traits you would like to manifest. Someone, even if we are unable to manifest those traits at the time, who brings a good balance to our lives. **Be careful which traits you prioritize to manifest or see in your partner. Sometimes they may not be the best for you.

Society, unfortunately, also plays a pretty big role in our choice of companion. Usually. Society tends to use the fear of "what will people say" to their advantage. Many instances, rumours about someone or their partner are created and spread by society. This can harm the two people in the relationship. Furthermore, society has a description of an ideal partner. They have so many great personality traits and almost no flaws. However, if you learn and understand the following, dealing with society can become easier. Many great traits that each society member and their partner have combined with the traits that they wish their partners possessed make up this description of the ideal partner. This partner is unrealistic and its possibility of existence is near zero. So, the next time society tries to influence you in the wrong way, remember this. Also, society can be nosey. There are times that this nosiness is to protect a loved one. But, many times it actually can go against them. If there are things that your partner, or soon to be partner, (I do not just mean marriage. I mean just a normal modern-day relationship of two people dating as well) has not told you about their personal life because they are waiting for a good time, society can find out this personal information and tell you. Sometimes it is told in a proper and mature manner but the chances of that are very low. Facts along with opinions are given. This can wrongly influence and impact a relationship because these personal conversations must be shared between the two members in the relationship, not external parties. Often, the facts presented can be exaggerated or even incorrect or inaccurate. Once again, this can prove lethal for a relationship. Thus, as much as you should pay attention to society because you are surrounded by them, they must not negatively influence the decision of a partner.

Last but not least, family influences our choice of partner. Both your family and the partner's family. Family background, reputation, morals, values, achievements even are heavily taken into consideration. Your own family will inspect your partner to see if s/he will be a good fit for the family based on your family's perspective and expectation of an ideal partner. If they may not live up to these expectations, your family can influence your decision negatively. So, you must remember the following things:

• Take your family's opinions and thoughts into consideration. Think about why they believe what they believe and respect their opinions. They are talking from their perspective of life which they gained through their experiences.

• If you choose to move forward with your partner or choose against it, make sure it is your decision. Truly think about whether this is the decision you would like to make because no one in the world knows what's really best for you except yourself. You know yourself best.

I told you my fictional couple that I idolize, but how about my real-life one? Cheesy enough, definitely my parents. The relationship they share is one for the books, I swear. Many times at the dinner table, I've mentioned that they were always "meant to be". Many traits that my dad has my mom doesn't and vice versa. While their relationship has its ups and downs, as do all relationships, each one brings them closer to one another. Their bond strengthens day in and day out. Every morning my parents wake up feeling thankful for each other. My mom never fails to mention that they are best friends before anything. The love they share is very innocent, true, and pure. As I watch them every day, I am firmly convinced that in the future, I hope to have what they share. Two best friends, adults, children at heart, in a relationship with each other forever.